Learning how to listen to the people in my life has been one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned in adulthood and I’m still learning it. It’s easy to talk to fill a silent void. It’s easy to offer unwanted advice because you don’t like or understand why your friends are doing the things they do. It’s hard to truly listen to the things that go unsaid. Sometimes more is said by silence than any amount of words. I believe that if we spent more time really listening to each other, there would be fewer instances of hurt feelings, anger, or confusion.
But being a good listener doesn’t mean that you sit silently while someone chatters for ages or drones on about the same issue for hours/weeks. Knowing what to say when is a lesson for another day.